Feeling happy with life is something we all want to achieve.
We throw the word ‘happy’ around a lot in casual conversations.
“If I get that job promotion, I’ll be happy.”
“If my partner showed me affection, I’d be happier.”
It’s common for people to spend too much time working out ways they could be happy, that they forget to focus on the things that already make them feel this way.
With happiness, we have a habit of seeking more.
That ‘happy’ feeling can become somewhat addictive, and people forget the good and only focus on what they don’t currently possess.
The art of feeling content means that you see the good in your life and aren’t chasing down fleeting glimmers of happiness.
Feeling contented is having positive vibes across all aspects of your life.
So, are you content with your life?
Read on for my tips for finding out of you’re in a state of contentment, or if you’re constantly seeking out your next ‘happy moment’ fix.
The true meaning of feeling content?
So, you’re proud of your home and all the finishing touches you’ve added to it?
You don’t get stuck in the past and drive yourself crazy going over past events you can’t change?
You’re in a great relationship where your partner shows you love and makes you feel at ease – or you’re perfectly fine with being single?
You keep both your body and mind healthy and use some of your free time to make sure this stays this way?
When you need help, you aren’t too proud to ask and accept it?
You aren’t afraid to try something new, however scary it might seem?
You love your family and friends, but you don’t let them cloud your mind, so their negativity doesn’t unbalance your mental health issues.
The little things bring a smile to your face, while you’re just able to shrug the bad things off.
If you find yourself agreeing to all these things, then it sounds like you’re leading a pretty content life.
Accepting that you’re great
It’s easy to freak out at the moment and let your negative thoughts overpower you.
Suddenly, those cruel words someone said to you 6 months ago seem relevant – it’s like you’re lost in a time loop, and you can’t find the road out.
This negativity stops you from asking for help.
It makes you feel like you’re not good enough. It taunts and laughs at you.
Okay, so maybe you did mess something up in your past, maybe it was big! But dwelling on it isn’t going to do your mind any favors.
How are you meant to focus on the good things in your life, when you’re stuck in past bad things that happened to you?
To truly feel content with your life, you need to move on from the past, focus on the present, and view the future as an exciting adventure.
You’re focused on your goals
You have bright ideas about where you want your life to go – and you don’t let past mistakes deter you.
You know that you should learn from your past – so quit pondering on it!
Getting stuck in the ‘what ifs?’ and ‘would have been?’ won’t get you your dream job, or help you move into your dream home.
Dwelling on the past just prevents you from finding your way forward.
Feeling content means you have realistic goals, but you aren’t going to burn yourself out both physically and mentally, trying to achieve them.
Positive love vibes
Whether you live home alone and are embracing the single life, or are loved up in a positive relationship – feeling content in your love life is a good sign.
Love and matters of the heart play an instrumental part in our everyday thoughts and feelings.
Naturally, if we’re feeling heartbroken or lonely, then we may struggle to operate in everyday life.
Quit going through life in a zombie-like state.
Leave the zombies for horror films and try and find your way to a content way of being.
Okay, so people can be jerks – if someone you care about messes you about, then this hurts, a lot!
As hard as it may be, try not to let this idiot make you overlook all the good things going on in your life.
Show yourself positivity
When people (metaphorically) kick you in the leg, then you need to take some of your time out.
Jot down 5 things that you love about your life. In essence, this could be your
- amazing best friend,
- Friday takeaway treat,
- funny nephew,
- pebbled garden,
- a cat that’s always visiting.
Also, you could set yourself an achievable goal list – such as decorating your home, taking up a new hobby, or catching up with an old friend.
Remember to focus on the good, and don’t lose yourself in the bad!
The art of practicing mindfulness is to focus on the present and not allow yourself to get stuck in the past.
Being mindful means, you’re aware of your thoughts, feelings, and surroundings.
You no longer let unnecessary thoughts cloud your judgment, and this allows you to focus on what’s important.
Practicing mindfulness and feeling content are closely linked.
After all, being mindful is all about being grateful for what you have, and seeing the good in it.
It’s important not to let negative vibes whirl around your head.
Shake them away and focus on yourself, the present, and those amazing goals that you have firmly in your sights.
How to Feel Content With What You Have?
Feeling content sounds simple, right?!
The idea of being truly content with our lives is far easier said than done.
We all want to feel content, but there isn’t a magic wand we can wave to make ourselves brim with positivity.
Feeling content is a state of mind – it takes work and perseverance, but it’s achievable.
Stop the comparisons
So, Janice earns more money than you. She has 2 well-behaved kids, an attentive husband, a beautiful home, and she looks like she could be Angelina Jolie’s twin sister.
This is great for Janice, but newsflash…you’re not Janice!
The ins-and-outs of her life aren’t related to yours.
Comparing yourself to other people is a sure-fire way to fling yourself into the mental realms of misery.
Give yourself a break – besides, you only see the parts of Janice’s life that are on the surface. You don’t know the bigger picture.
For all, you know Janice might be miserable!
Even if her life really is as glossy as it appears, then it’s far better to feel pleased for her than jealous.
Instead of comparing yourself to a ‘perfect’ seeming person, you should channel your energy into yourself and your own goals.
Appreciate the little things
It’s the little things in life that go the furthest.
The problem is that many of us overlook these ‘little things’ in search of bigger ‘shinier’ things.
Bigger is most definitely not always better.
Focus on the small things in life that bring you joy, as they all mount up.
Content people know that it’s these small things in life that make everything else seem worthwhile.
Stop viewing life as a chore. Instead, embrace what it’s like to feel joy at even the smallest of things.
So, what are some little moments of joy examples?
Your work colleague brings in chocolate cake to share – yum!
Your son gives you an extra-long hug and tells you they love you.
Your friend sends you a funny meme.
The radio station played your favorite song.
Take note of the small delights as they allow us to appreciate our lives.
I Feel Content: An Overview
In a world of ‘more,’ sometimes it’s hard feeling content with what you have.
Don’t let what you don’t have drag you down, instead focus on what you do have.
We’re only human, so sometimes the negative thoughts crawl inside of our heads, and we struggle to shake them out.
Feeling content takes time, effort, and practice.
There will be some days when you just want to scream out – but don’t let these gloomy thought days dishearten you.
Think about something positive that happened in your day.
Do a kind deed for someone else.
Appreciate what you have.
Relax with a cup of tea, listen to your favorite tune, and focus on all the great people, places, and elements that you have in your life.