Dealing with Stressful Relationships and Handling Their Turbulence with Grace

Relationships with romantic partners, friends, and even family will never be perfect.

We won’t always see eye to eye. We may even have things that make us clash with one another.

But there are times where that bond may feel “on edge.”

You might feel like you’re walking on eggshells. You may worry that the relationship will begin to falter.

Stress is what your relationship is dealing with.

In these situations, you might be unsure of what to do next.

That’s where we come in to help.


Are Relationships Supposed to Be Stressful?

A better question is, “Are all relationships stressful?” The answer is no.

However, this doesn’t mean that if a relationship is stressful that it can’t succeed. But relationships don’t necessarily require stress to work either.

But sometimes relationship stress is inevitable.

You and your partner might deal with something you never thought would happen. Or, you may intentionally encounter something together that’s more anxiety-provoking than you thought.

Sometimes relationship stress has directly to do with the relationship itself. Other times, it’s a result of outside forces.

Common relationship stressors include financial problems, an ill or injured partner, and infidelity.

However, the stress in a relationship can happen over something positive too.

Planning a wedding, giving birth, or moving are examples of eustress (positive stress).

Truthfully, stress isn’t always avoidable.

After all, 77% of people regularly deal with the physical aspects of stress each day. So, it’s no surprise that most relationships will encounter the same.

It’s critical that we learn to accept this reality. Most importantly, though, we must figure how out to get a grip on it.


How Do You Deal with a Stressful Relationship?

It’s not always about what’s going on in your relationship; it’s how you deal with it.

Doing the following things can help you better handle your relationship woes.


Use Proper Communication

They say communication is the most important aspect of a relationship. They aren’t wrong.

Words have substantial power, both good and bad. Use them wisely.

A partnership with inadequate communication skills won’t make a strong relationship.

When dealing with relationship stress, it’s integral to step up your communication game.

During these times, it’s imperative to learn how to express yourself in a healthy manner. Say the right words, don’t overexpress emotions, and work on your tone.

Likewise, it’ll also be important to listen more to your partner.

How do they feel about the situation? What is it that they want and need? What is it that they hope will change?

When it’s clear where both partners stand, finding a resolution will be easier.

But we have to warn you: it won’t be easy at first.


Work on Your Own Faults

A faulty relationship will never recover unless each partner fixes themselves.

Remember: you can’t change your partner. But, you can change how you react to your partner.

And you can change yourself.

After properly communicating with your partner, your faults will be more apparent. Once you’re aware of these, you can then search for ways to fix them.

For instance, if you often start messy arguments, learn to fight more constructively.

This is just one of the many aspects of a relationship that you may need room to improve in. And that’s okay.

Fortunately, you don’t have to work on yourself alone. Getting help from a personal counselor or marriage counselor may also help.

Remember: being a work in progress doesn’t have to be a bad thing.

But you may need to make some small or even major life changes.

At times, that life change you might be best to make might be letting go of the partnership entirely.


Support Your Partner When Necessary

Stress in a partnership doesn’t have to come from both partners. Sometimes it’s one partner who contributes to the stress.

Maybe your partner is going through something that’s making your bond go into crisis mode. They might not even know it at first.

A recent death, mental illness, or insecurity are things they might be dealing with.

Each of these can cause significant emotional stress on the two of you.

Although you can’t simply banish the negative energy, you can deal with it positively.

Find out what it is that your partner is going through. Then, prepare yourself to help them in any way that they need.

Sometimes all your loved one might require is a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to.

Supporting your loved one can relieve serious relationship tension.

Be there for them the way you’d want them to be there for you.


Take Time for Yourself

It’s important for both partners to take time alone in the midst of relationship problems.

Research shows that too much time together can suffocate a relationship. Just like many things in life, sometimes less is more in a relationship.

This doesn’t mean they should avoid each other completely or break up. Instead, this means each person deserves space to recollect themselves.

Right now, find a healthy balance between time together and moments apart.

For many people, absence really does make the heart grow fonder.

And time spent apart can give you both a breather. That way, you’ll be ready to handle the situation more effectively in the future.


Learn More About Your Partner

During difficult moments, it’s easy to draw away from your partner. You may find yourself pushing your significant other away.

But the best thing for couples to do is to get closer.

Don’t get closer in a suffocating or smothering manner. Rather, what we mean is, seek to learn more about your partner.

What is their communication style? How about their attachment style? And, what is their love language?

Also, what are yours?

As you learn these things, you’ll discover healthier ways to resolve conflicts.

Sometimes we forget that we can be quite different from our partner. But it’s never too late to find out those differences.

Work with those variances, not against them.


How Does Stress Affect Family Relationships?

Not only can a relationship cause stress, but stress can affect a relationship.

This is true even in family relationships.


Can create tension in your life

Stress in a family companionship can extend to other areas of your life.

Dealing with issues with a family member can trigger a variety of personal problems.

For instance, our mental health can deteriorate. We might lose interest in things that once made us happy. Sometimes we might struggle to eat or sleep. Or, we might have difficulty concentrating at school or work.

Even smaller problems can take a heavy toll on us.

This is why it’s vital to manage the stressors affecting family ties.


Might trigger health problems

The more serious the stress, and the longer it lasts, the more likely you are to develop health problems.

High blood pressure, changes in heart rhythm, lower immunity might arise. Changes in appetite, weight gain or loss, or digestive ailments can also occur.

Finding ways to reduce these health problems is important for the whole family.

And it all begins with combating stress as productively as possible together.

Apart from the later, each family member should develop their own way of handling the stress. This is especially a good idea since we all handle stress differently.


May weaken or destroy bonds

Problems in relationships can act as a “test” to determine which people deserve to be in your life.

Unfortunately, some bonds permanently weaken or break due to stress.

Other times, a weak bond is merely temporary. But this can still negatively impact the relationship in the meantime.

Decide if family ties are worth disintegrating over the issues you’re dealing with.

Sometimes maintaining peace is the better decision.


Some cases, it may strengthen a relationship

Did you know that stress can be beneficial at times? It’s true!

In healthy amounts, stress may boost your bond with your family members.

Stress can potentially ignite positive changes and progress where necessary. Without stress, sometimes, we remain stagnant.

And in the end, going through a serious argument or major life change can bring the family closer.

The more effectively you combat stress, the more likely you are to stick together in the future.


Can Anxiety Affect Relationships?

Dealing with acute or chronic anxiety can have a negative impact on any relationship like stress.

In life, it’s important that we learn how to balance our high stress and anxiety levels. When we support ourselves during these hard times, we can foster better relationships.

It’s also a good idea to communicate with your loved ones how they can best support you.

Although the anxiety may be directly affecting you, it indirectly impacts the relationship.

For chronic, severe anxiety sufferers, professional help may be necessary.

Sometimes we don’t realize how much our own struggles impact our relationships.

But once we get a grip on our anxiety, we realize how much better our relationships become.

Always strive to be the best version of yourself! Both you and your loved ones can benefit from this.

Remember that you can’t pour from a cup that’s empty. Help yourself first.

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